tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post4134440772728403551..comments2024-03-15T13:08:38.514-05:00Comments on The Writeous Babe Project: Monday Motivation: What Do You Want to Do?javaciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11430355392296844740noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-78858215781319381352012-06-18T13:11:01.186-05:002012-06-18T13:11:01.186-05:00I am so excited to meet you. I even plan to blog i...I am so excited to meet you. I even plan to blog it. LOL. So get ready to smile for my camera.javaciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11430355392296844740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-34459192810177230782012-06-18T12:53:02.522-05:002012-06-18T12:53:02.522-05:00p.s. we had the same dream.p.s. we had the same dream.Carolhttp://about.me/carolmarksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-75985876360361039742012-06-18T12:52:18.183-05:002012-06-18T12:52:18.183-05:00WOOOOHOOOO! GREAT post and I'm right there wit...WOOOOHOOOO! GREAT post and I'm right there with you! Whew, what a refreshing read, to read something so honest on the Internet. THANK YOU FOR THIS. I want more too. I can't wait to meet you in person on the 29th!!Carolhttp://about.me/carolmarksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-75922560299115978682012-06-13T09:54:25.420-05:002012-06-13T09:54:25.420-05:00I've actually had some major breakthroughs, ep...I've actually had some major breakthroughs, epiphanies, etc. in the past few days. I'll be ready to let you see my homework in no time!javaciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11430355392296844740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-48329616236310959102012-06-12T21:17:23.737-05:002012-06-12T21:17:23.737-05:00Jai you just read my mind with that post! Let me ...Jai you just read my mind with that post! Let me know if you figure out the answers and I'll just copy off your paper.Tracinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-10014752243081879102012-06-12T20:58:08.250-05:002012-06-12T20:58:08.250-05:00This reply isn't THAT long! You had me prepare...This reply isn't THAT long! You had me prepared to read a dissertation.<br /><br />It is helpful. I believe it's important to continually analyze one's underlying motivation for dreams and goals, even when you know what's next, and to plan once you know you're on the right track.<br /><br />Thanks for the advice!Mariamhttp://redboneafropuff.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-59668317088342059572012-06-12T15:15:59.567-05:002012-06-12T15:15:59.567-05:00I completely understand where you're coming fr...I completely understand where you're coming from on so much of this. I think as we get older we have to adjust our dreams but they don't have to die completely. For example, I will most likely never live in New York and start a national print magazine. I will never be the black Carrie Bradshaw as I once hoped. But what I think we should do is get to the core or motivation of our dreams. So why do you want these certain things? What do you hope or think you (and others) will gain from these things? Then after you've answered that, figure out a way that you can get these benefits in other ways -- ways that may not be exactly what you dreamed of as a kid but ways that can be just as fulfilling, if not more, and ways that are actually realistic considering what you are and are not willing to do. <br /><br />From there you (and I'm talking to myself here, too) do need to figure out what's next. I actually just had a two hour lunch with a fellow female writer and we came to the conclusion I need to pick one writing project to focus most of my energy on and we're going to get together weekly to work on our projects. <br /><br />And as for activism, I believe that can take many forms. I'm not occupying Wall Street or getting deeply involved in politics so I can help change policy. That's just not my calling. But See Jane Write is. That's my activism. So find something that's right for you. <br /><br />I hope this ridiculously long reply is somewhat helpful.javaciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11430355392296844740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-53005595073898565842012-06-12T11:35:07.272-05:002012-06-12T11:35:07.272-05:00"Who's in?"
*Raises hand high*
I s..."Who's in?"<br /><br />*Raises hand high*<br /><br />I still want to do all the things that are totally unrealistic for an almost 32-year-old living in Louisville: Star in a widely released feature film by a major or indie studio, write a screenplay that is produced by a same studio and widely released, perform in theater that's not community theater; write a bestselling memoir (about me--someone no one knows and would have no reason to read), get married, have children ...<br /><br />There's so much delusion in that list, but yes, they are all things I *want* to do.<br /><br />My problem with these wants/dreams/wishes/delusions are twofold: 1) The likelihood of any of them happening diminishes the older I get, in part because my willingness to do what it would take to do those things diminishes as well. I don't want to live in L.A. ever again. I'm not big on NYC or Chicago. My life as an underpaid person in Louisville is bad enough; a city with a high cost of living would probably make me suicidal. I'm so against living in some places now that I don't think I would even attend grad school there. 2) My wants/dreams/wishes/delusions are selfish. Ending racism and sexism are part of my vision statement, and I have written out what the world would look like if all my social justice fights were won, but being an activist--or a poor one anyway--isn't my thing. I want the material I write to be taught in schools, used in programs for women's and girls's empowerment, etc., and to be seen or read by millions and change society that way. But I want some nice things for myself, too, maybe even *first.* I don't have a goal like yours with See Jane Write, and I think that's a problem.<br /><br />It's also very difficult to pick what's next when my goals are large and not concrete.<br /><br />*Rethinks high raised hand.*Mariamhttp://redboneafropuff.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-76412006126414111262012-06-11T13:43:37.576-05:002012-06-11T13:43:37.576-05:00Yes, I pictured myself single and living in New Yo...Yes, I pictured myself single and living in New York and while I wouldn't trade my marriage for the world I am at a place of asking myself "What's next?" I am sure the iPhone holds the answers, though. ;)javaciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11430355392296844740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638454336208915792.post-76651986130165004462012-06-11T10:14:01.880-05:002012-06-11T10:14:01.880-05:00At 34, I know exactly what you mean. I'm unsat...At 34, I know exactly what you mean. I'm unsatisfied and don't know why. Now that I'm the grownup and I get to do what I want, I'm not sure what I want. In school, I pictured myself a fiction writer, solo: me vs. world. But now I write about my kid and sometimes, my husband, although I never expected to be back home in B'ham with either one. Now that I'm on this path (which is probably better than the one my younger self picked out) what am I doing? Where is it leading? I'm getting an iPhone this month, although I am not sure that will help.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10338410537581228347noreply@blogger.com