5 Things I Know For Sure

Monday, June 20, 2016

Photos by Brendon Pinola via StyleBlueprint Birmingham

1. God is Love and Love is Life. When it comes to faith, I have more questions than answers. Though I identify as Christian because I love Jesus, organized religion confuses me to no end. It always has. It probably always will. But I am sure that God is Love and Love is Life. My life should center on loving others and loving myself. I believe this is how we worship. This is why I consider my marriage a ministry and my feminism a divine calling. When I serve my husband, when I join hands with the women of my tribe to help them make their dreams come true, these are holy acts. When I share pillow talk with my husband, when my friends and I share secrets over a bottle wine (or two), this is communion.


2. What God has for me is for me. Last year my husband and I set out to purchase our first house. As offer after offer was turned down we got discouraged. The rejection was heartbreaking. It felt like getting dumped again and again. But eventually an offer was accepted on a house that was more spacious, less expensive, and closer to our jobs than any of the other houses. It was after this that I truly began to believe the saying "What God has for me is for me." And I have started to apply it to every facet of my life. And therefore I no longer believe in competition. This attitude will work wonders for your relationships with other women. You will no longer see other women as competition in business or anything. As one of my favorite quotes says, you will see them as your tribe, your sisters, your fellow goddesses. And you will treat them as such.



3. A woman's words can change the world. This belief defines my life's work. This is why I'm an English teacher at a predominantly female school. This is why I founded See Jane Write, a Birmingham-based membership organization for women who write and blog. This is why I write. This is why I blog. This is also why I am careful of every word I speak to my husband, to my students, and to my friends. My words have the power to tear down or build up and so do yours. Will you use your superpower for evil or for good?

4. She who learns teaches. This Ethiopian proverb is my mantra. I am a teacher, but not just in my classroom. I teach through See Jane Write. I teach through this blog. I teach through the column I write for a local magazine. I teach through my every action and my every word. I teach because so many have taught me and it is my duty to keep this virtuous cycle going.



5. Self-care is a feminist act. All work and no play makes me a very boring babe, and oftentimes a very sick one, too. I used to pride myself on working all the time. Javacia "No Days Off" Bowser, I once called myself. But that got old and so did I, or at least too old to keep up at such a pace. Now I have lazy days at least every other week, days during which I do nothing but watch reruns of Law & Order or NCIS (I told you I was old), and I get a massage every month. Self-care is not selfish. In a world where women are expected to take care of everyone except themselves, self-care is a feminist act. And self-care is not selfish because we can't take care of others if we have nothing left inside to give. You can't pour from an empty cup.

What 5 things do you know for sure? 

This post was inspired by the series 5 Things I Know for Sure created by Ashley Coleman of the blog Write Laugh Dream


4 comments:

  1. Love the Post! Hmmm, 5 things I know down to the ground...

    1) God's Perfect and I ain't. That allows me to give credit where it's due and let myself off the hook when I need it. I'm 57 and I've still got learning to do.

    2) The world does not revolve around me. On the one hand, this could be a depressing thought because if I want something done, that means I need to do it. On the other hand, I don't want all the responsibility of being the center of the world. Freedom from life as the fulcrum is a good exchange for self-care.

    3) Most of the time, dreading an experience is worse than the experience itself. I spent decades worrying how/if I could face the world without my parents. I wasn't sure I could survive without the security of their presence behind me. Well, losing them was awful, two of the worst days of my life, but I didn't dry up and blow away. I cried and I mourned and I packed stuff up and then picked myself up and went on with my life. I miss them, I always will, but I'm still living and (this brings me to #4)

    4. Living is Good. Even when Living is Bad, it's Good. Where there's Life, there's Choice, Hope, Potential. There's a chance it can get better. There may be one or two exceptions but for me, as long as I have a chance of seeing or feeling the sun shine again, Living is Good.

    5. Mick and Keith were far more profound than they knew. There's a lifetime of philosophy in the phrase, "You can't always get what you want...but...sometimes you get what you need." I've wanted lots of things (and people) who eluded me over the years and the disappointment from not getting my heart's desire really hurt. Instead, I've found other people and things that sustain me far more than what (and who) I was looking for. Not only have I received what I was supposed to get, I got it when I was really ready to receive it. I'm lucky.

    Thanks again for the post and the idea. You make me think as well as smile.

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    1. This is fantastic! And you are so wise. Thank you so much for sharing, Leslie!

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