35 for 35

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

I couldn't believe this was happening to me. I'd become one of those people who start feeling down as their birthday approaches. This was happening to me, me who looked forward to 30, me who often utters the words, "I can't wait to turn 40!" because my friends over 40 are so fabulous and fierce.
Yet as I saw 35 in the horizon I started to feel sad, even a little scared. Is this it? I asked myself. Is this all I will ever become? Are my best years behind me? 
But then my hard-won confidence and past accomplishments put an end to that pity party. I wrote myself instructions on How to Turn 35 and now I'm taking my own advice.
As I turn 35 I will laugh, I will dance, and I will dream as I did as a girl.

How to Turn 35

Monday, February 8, 2016

Dear Javacia,
When you turn 35, you must celebrate all month long. When you turn 35, you must celebrate first with a look back. You will discover that 34 was quite the year.
Thirty-four was the year you built your labor of love—See Jane Write—into a business and learned that if you take yourself seriously as an entrepreneur, other people will, too. Your 2015 “Top 40 Under 40” award from the Birmingham Business Journal is proof.
Thirty-four was the year you and your husband bought a house, something you never thought you could do. When you were younger, you saw homeownership as something reserved for folks from wealthy families. Your family never had much money. Even though your parents worked very, very hard, they always struggled to make ends meet. They weren’t able to purchase a house and you saw your fair share of eviction notices taped to the front door. But 34 was the year you declared you would go after all those things you once believed were beyond your reach—and it worked.
Thirty-four was the year you were deemed “inspirational.” Because of your work with See Jane Write, Girls on the Run Birmingham recognized you among other local “Women Who Inspire,” such as legendary TV news anchor Brenda Ladun. At the awards ceremony, you felt like a fraud because that night you didn’t feel “inspirational,” you felt like a mess. You were in the midst of one of your most stressful times of the year, a time when you were ready to quit everything. You spent most of the evening in tears. Then several women came to you sharing how you had changed their lives simply by inspiring them to share their stories and write their truth. Thirty-four was the year you realized you could be a mess and still be inspirational...
Read this entire article at B-Metro.com

30 Things I Love Right Now...about Beyonce's "Formation"

Sunday, February 7, 2016

Beyonce has had enough.

Beyonce has had enough of y'all talking about her baby's hair.
She's had enough of y'all talking about her man's big nose.

She's had enough of her people being killed by the very people sworn to protect and serve them.

Goals, Goals, Goals!

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

It's January, the month during which I'm even more obsessed with goal-setting than I usually am.

Over on my blog for my business, I've been sharing my goals all month.

I shared my goals for January.

I shared my bad feminist fitness goals.

And I even set some self-care resolutions for the year.

In my B-Metro column for this month I offer resolutions for women who write.

My New Year's Eve party lasted until after 5 a.m. I snapped this picture of myself once I'd officially been awake for over 24 hours! 

So what are you goals or resolutions for 2016? I'd love to hear all about them.

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Confessions of a Goal Digger

Monday, December 7, 2015

I am a dreamer, a dreamer with goals galore. You can call me a “goal digger” if you’d like. I even have the T-shirt. My writing, blogging, and business goals are usually the last things I’m thinking about before I fall asleep at night and typically the first things on my mind in the morning. I’m constantly brainstorming ideas for blog posts, articles, and personal essays. I’m constantly pondering ways I can grow See Jane Write, my membership organization, and consulting service for women writers and bloggers. It’s probably not inaccurate to say that I am obsessed with my work. Is this healthy? Is this normal? I’m not sure that I care if it is or not.
Because of my goal-digging ways I spend the month of December ready to pop. I’m bursting with excitement for the New Year. And yes, I am one of those people who loves New Year’s Eve. In fact, I’d be fine with fast forwarding through the stressful and obscenely expensive holiday of Christmas and skipping right to Dec. 31.
Yes, I am one of those people who create a long list of goals and resolutions for the New Year and, yes, I believe in magic. I believe that the act of hanging a new calendar on my wall will give me all I need to keep these resolutions of mine and to bring my dreams to fruition. I know it’s silly, but I am unfazed. However, a highly successful blogger that I truly admire recently reminded me and her other fans that when you have big dreams you must respect the process. Don’t stay constantly fixed on your destination, she said. You must learn to enjoy the journey.
I especially need this reminder in December; otherwise I’ll spend the entire month counting down to midnight of January 1. But how do we goal diggers do this? How do we set our aspirations for the next year and look forward to 2016 yet still enjoy the final days of 2015?...
Read this entire article at B-Metro.com

November Intentions

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Can you believe November is already here?!
2016 is just down the street, around the corner, or however the saying goes. 
I like to begin each month setting goals for the weeks ahead.

Talking About Money Makes Me Sick

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Talking about money and personal finance makes me sick -- literally. I once threw up before a trip to H&R Block to get my taxes done. And I typically get a refund! 

When I was growing up my parents had very little money. We were no stranger to eviction notices or having the gas or electric services turned off. And money woes often led to heated disagreements in our household. 

Today I am a proud homeowner and my bills are always paid on time, and yet I still don't want to talk about money -- EVER. 

Enter Tracie B. Threadford

Tracie B. Threadford, my money makeup artist